Saturday, March 26, 2011

Shades of Death: A Road Not Dead?

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New Jersey is a haunted state.  Public buildings, houses, even roads have been trampled upon or lived in for over 200 years and most are still standing or in use.  Unexplained phenomena and ghost activities have been investigated and documented by a variety of groups:  ghost hunters, amateurs, publications such as “Weird NJ” magazine and television shows like MTV’s “Fear” and Syfy’s “Ghost Hunters.”

Living in New Jersey, I embrace these fascinating stories and legends.  I want to see if there is any truth to it first hand.  It would be impossible to visit every location, so I focus on a local road known to be haunted.  I am not a ghost hunter, thrill seeker, or crazy for that matter.  Skepticism is a natural tendency in my makeup, but I am open-minded and believe there are things in life that sometimes cannot be explained.

A half a mile away from my home runs Shades of Death Road in the village of Great Meadows.  The road’s long, macabre history stretches back to the mid-18th century. Surround by rural farmlands, picturesque vistas of the Kittatiny Valley and the Pequest River, its pristine landscape veils the dark reputation of the road as it prominently sits in the center of it all.

Because the road is well documented in ghost activity, with strange occurrences the norm, visitors are common to the area.  To curb the flow of unwanted visitors, or even thieves, residents often smear oil or mud on the sign to obscure the name of the road to turn on hoping to deter them.  Many of these road signs have disappeared over the years.

There are no historical documents or records explaining the origin of the road’s grim name.  Without this information all theories are guesses.  Some theories focus on the lower end of the road where highway men and bandits would hide in the shade waiting for victims to steal their valuables, then murder them as they passed by.  Another theory states that the highway men would engage in fights to the death, among themselves, over women.  Some say the locals took revenge on the highway men by capturing and lynching them in the same area as their victims, and the angry spirits of the victims continue to mourn their untimely death.  Others say it was more of a natural reason: the malaria outbreak of 1850, that claimed many lives due to lack of medical treatment in such a remote location.  These theories only add to the mystery.

“Shades,” as the locals call it, is a rural two-lane road running seven miles long.  Old farmhouses dot both sides of the road and are separated by clusters of trees so thick that light disappears even in bright sunshine.  Residents cope with the road’s dark past by simply ignoring it.  “It’s just a road, I try not to read too much in the weirdness and all, I think it’s more in the minds of people that don’t live here, than anything,”  Phillip Bright says, with a hint of annoyance when I ask about living on Shades.  “I’ve lived on it all my life and nothing out of the ordinary has happened to me.”

Luckily for Phillip, that is the case.  The road’s extreme curves and lack of guard rails have caused a number of fatal car accidents, most recently ten years ago when three teenagers crashed into a tree and all died.  People believe the high number of deaths create the perfect environment for ghost sightings and paranormal activity. 

A number of people mention feeling a heavy sensation in the air once they go down the road. “Some people feel such dread that they turn right around and never go back, that happened to me,” Evie Castle-White, my neighbor and Great Meadows native confirms, shivering slightly at the memory.  “If you really want to see something interesting, check out Ghost Lake, especially at night,” adds husband, Ben.  “My buddies and I used to fish there, but it’s kinda weird down around the lake.” 

Legend has it that if you go to Ghost Lake at night, darkness shrouds the road, except at the lake, where the sky above is still bright as twilight .  An old abandoned cabin stands along banks where people report seeing apparitions at night during a full moon. People say the apparitions are the ghosts of campers murdered at the lake years ago, which was never solved.

I decide to see the lake for myself one evening in April when the full moon is high in the sky. I surmise that the apparitions are most likely a figment of overactive imaginations, maybe caused by the fog rolling off the lake.  The road is eerie and quiet with the sounds of crickets.  There are no street lamps and the night sky is black as tar as a gray cloud covers the moon temporarily.  Little dots of light can be seen from windows of the few residents that are still awake and knowing they are there comforts me.

As I round the bend, Ghost Lake appears suddenly in the darkness.  Looking up, I am shocked to see that the sky over the lake is bright.  The oddity of this should not surprise me, having been told by many that this occurs, but seeing it for myself is quite another thing.  There is nothing around the lake that could attribute to the brightness.

Feeling slightly scared, I force myself to stay and find the old cabin.  The dark roof is barely visible through the trees as it looms over the water.  Luckily for my nerves, apparitions, of any sort, do not appear.  Relief is short lived as the crickets go quiet and a heavy feeling takes hold of me.  The air becomes chilly as I start the car and leave, forcing myself to look back in the rear view mirror, turning slowly on Shades.  I swear I see something moving, but decide it's my imagination.  But just in case, I will give up looking for ghosts, at least for the time being.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

May You Rest In Peace...

1932-2011
I cried yesterday at the passing of Dame Elizabeth Taylor.  Known for her breathtaking beauty, her enormous talent, and, of course, her extensive love life, she was also a mother, grandmother, faithful friend, and activist.  There will never be and could never be anyone so remarkable in this lifetime again.

It really is an end of of an era.  Goodbye...you will be truly missed.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Marilyn



Fragments:  Poems, Intimate Notes, and Letters by Marilyn Monroe

I've always been a Marilyn Monroe fan.  The myth of Marilyn Monroe as the quintessential "blond bombshell" lives on today. With her child-like voice and dumb blond persona, it is easy to overlook who Marilyn really was.  She was a woman who survived a unhappy childhood fraught with isolation and abuse.  Marilyn rose above it with inner strength, courage, and determination to reinvent herself into a successful movie star and sex symbol.

(Photo Source:  Sam Rose)

But that was only one side to this complex woman.  She loved reading great works literature, wrote stories and poems; a genus in her own right who always sought ways to improve herself and her mind.

The world loss a truly talented woman, too soon.  If she had lived longer who knows what she would and could have achieved.  How sad for her...and for us.
The same blood running through your veins doesn't make you family.  It is what you do and how you treat each other that makes you family.

And all my family are the friends I've cultivated in my lifetime, my husband, and children to come.
 
I'm lucky.
"The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved."
Victor Hugo

Monday, March 21, 2011

Time for a new bed...

The hubby likes this:


But I like this:


Two things:

I still like pink.
I don't live in Muir Woods.

But with marriage comes compromise so, dearest, how about this:


 (All Photos:  Apartment Therapy)

Friday, March 18, 2011

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Always

I am not jealous
of what came before me.

Come with a man
on your shoulders,
come with a hundred men in your hair,
come with a thousand men between your breasts and your feet,
come like a river
full of drowned men
which flows down to the wild sea,
to the eternal surf, to Time!

Bring them all
to where I am waiting for you;
we shall always be alone,
we shall always be you and I
alone on earth,
to start our life! 


~Pablo Neruda

Je t'aime

The wind has changed and I long to move somewhere again.  I am a gypsy at heart; a nomad that can never really settle in one place for long.  I need change, to see the world even though it it's smaller than it once was in the days of old where travel was really an adventure.  The unpredictability of life is what makes me feel alive.

Where would I go?  Belize?  Costa Rica?  Australia?  Thailand?  No. Argentina? Martinique? Maybe later.  Despite the fact that an exotic location would be exciting, I want to got in the other direction...to Europe.  I have family in England.  My mother's English genes course through my veins beckoning me home all the time.  But still, it's not enough.  It's not really home.  Truthfully, the urge to leave hits me all the time because I haven't found the place I want to be...meant to be.  Maybe it's because I haven't found my home yet.  It's that feeling that is missing and has been missing my entire life.  Is there a place that I've been to that evokes the feeling of contentment?  One. The country that most inspires me with its people, culture, and beauty is France.

Ahh...Paris
(Photo Source:  The Brooklyn Nomad)


I went to Paris the first time when I was 13 years old.  The hustle of the city did not distract me from observing the breathtaking beauty of it's architecture and the thrill of discovering quaint cafes, shops and more on side streets only traveled by true Parisians.  Even at 13, I didn't complain of foot burn as I walked miles and miles taking in everything I could see in that short week.  I cried when I left.

I returned years later at 25 and still felt the absolute thrill when I set foot on French soil again.  I stayed in Montmarte, in the 18th arrondissement, in a small hotel right next a restaurant that served the best oysters.  I still enjoyed the feeling of not knowing where I would end up as I walked Rue after Rue.  The people I encountered were quite friendly to me, even with my elementary French skills.  Maybe they could tell I was sincere in my endeavor.  Numerous artists dotted the streets and I longed to be 18 again, more carefree and not afraid of devoting myself to the arts, capturing the images before me with deft strokes.  The talent- the fearlessness of true artists are an inspiration for us all that are afraid to live.

And then the grandest vision of all:  the Sacré Coeur.

(Photo Source:  Wikipedia)

The hours I spent sitting there writing everything down that I laid my eyes on:  the mother, smothering her angelic baby with loving kisses, the old man, sitting alone, sadly gazing up at the basilica holding a yellow rose, and the lovers, arms intertwined, caressing, rubbing places I would be afraid to do in public, but not them.  Heavy petting aside in the open public, it's nice to be in love...and to be in love in Paris. There is so much more, so many things to see and take in.  It is unending and the richness of this place seeps into your soul.

I miss Montmarte.  Most of all, I miss that small cafe, whose name I've unfortunately forgotten, but serves the best Cafe Au Lait I ever had...not to mention the scrumptious, melt-in-your mouth, better than sex (okay, almost better) desserts that cause my mouth to water, even now. 

Street in Montmarte
(Photo Source:  www.photoparis.com)
After all that, I still wanted to satisfy my desire to see more of France and ventured on a train to the city of Lourdes at the foothills of the Pyrenees.  I walked the cobble streets that Bernadette walked two centuries ago. I engaged in imaginary conversations with her.  To have experienced what she did at such a young age.  Remarkable, really.  Even if you don't believe, I do.  I took in the peace and security of the grotto, and stood in awe Rosary Square, and prayed in reverence at the Rosary Basilica.  Even in a small french town, the Byzantine architecture of the basilica is magnificent.

(Photo Source:  Famous Wonders)

I would miss that small little town.  A piece of my heart still resides there.

Someday, I hope to return again.  To Lourdes.  To Paris.  To France.  Someday, I hope to come back to a place I consider a home.

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Oh....Writing

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Writing is like sex. First you do it for love, then you do it for your friends, and then you do it for money.

Virginia Woolf